Bachelor is proud. Bachelor is fearless. Carefree, careless. Untidy, immature.
Married is conservative. Married is stable. Sensible and controlled. Thinks twice.
Bachelor is restless. Looks at savings account balance everyday. Married looks at the grocery bill every day!
Bachelor thinks married is jealous of him. Who knows, he may really be.
Bachelor thinks there are reasons for the jealousy.
You have no one to answer. No one to adjust with. Just don't get up from bed till noon and no one sweeping around pretending irritation, hissing out frustration announcing in every molecule of it "Get up you idiot so that I can clean-up around". No one to force you to shut off the light and stop you from late nite channel surfing or internet browsing.
No one to share your wallet, your moods, your way of life and the seat of your bike. Yes, there is handful reasons to cheer about bachelor-hood. No one to complain about the dirty toilet, smoky drawing room or smelly kitchen. Everyone has a right to live in ones own way, is n't it ? Why should one be so judgemental about somebody ? Why should I mould the way I live in the way she wants me to live ??
I have had enough wax-smile already. I don't want to have more.
Like I don't have enough show-off relatives already, why should I double them by marrying ? Why should I invite my married colleagues to dinner just because they have been inviting me to their place to show off their wife's prettiness. No. I can't do that.
I can't pretend happy when I am sad. I can't change the channel when I am really enjoying a show. I can't always wear a mask. If I am not, what I am, I can't survive. Good or bad, I am the way I am. I ain't no perfectionist, I don't want to improve myself at the cost of me.
Well. Sometimes the vacant back seat sucks. There are somethings I want to share with. Some stupid talks I want to do with someone. Somethings I would not express to my parents, my siblings and not even to my best friends; Something which does not have logic, still makes sense to me. Some stupid talk. And then I think, if only there was a company, who was intimate enough to listen to my illogical talks and were not judgemental. Digest my unmelodious hums and does n't tell to shut up.
I think thats the reason they invented marriage.
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Sunday, February 19, 2006
KALLUS :Loathe us, Adore Us but never Ignore us
Sunday I went to a movie 'Family Stone' where there is a family who love to play Dumb-charades. The heroine gets a chit written name of a movie 'The brides were Black' and she has to enact it. She manages to communicate the first word, and for the last word she indicates to a family friend who is a Nigger. The entire family finds it too condescending to the Negro and sues the lady.
I admired this a lot in the movie and thought may be the real life is not so nice. White Americans have been maintaining an eye of hatred to the darker race. Well if not all, a large number of them. And decades of inferiority complex have made 'BLACK's revolutionary. They are muggers, druggers and anarchists. They love to dress in their own way, long pants, extra loose T shirts, hats and large head phones on the go. They talk differently and dance while they move. Well, most of them. I see a very few of them in white collars and desk jobs, but in large amount roaming around the down town with funny costumes and filthy language. I heard they have their own laws in their colony and whoever tries to raise above it, gets victimised by his fellow brothers. Thats why we see negligible numbers of them make it into colleges and universities, though they are often seen outside the campus selling drugs to and breaking limbs of students. Well, not all of them. Nothing aginst any race !
When I came here first I was surprised ( and partly amazed ) to see them exactly as I have been seeing them in English flicks. Dresses, caps, music and foot-tapping walk. Especially the way they speak. Somebody told me its close to Souther accent. Definitely its different and you will enjoy.
We Desis are in constant complex while in US. Americans admire a lot of things in us. We can work long hours. We don't have a life apart from work ( the very reason we are in our business in IT ). We are versatile in technology ( An american codes in C for 30 years and retires codoing in the same). And they hate even more things in us. We smell like our food, our hygiene is horrible and our dressing sense sucks. But they can never ignore us since we work for cheap.
We Desis sometimes find ourselves close to Kallus. We are in the same Creamy-layer. However smart we are, no matter we have a Green Card, no matter howmuch we make money, We can never be a part of the main stream, since the color of our skins have a melanin dominance.
I admired this a lot in the movie and thought may be the real life is not so nice. White Americans have been maintaining an eye of hatred to the darker race. Well if not all, a large number of them. And decades of inferiority complex have made 'BLACK's revolutionary. They are muggers, druggers and anarchists. They love to dress in their own way, long pants, extra loose T shirts, hats and large head phones on the go. They talk differently and dance while they move. Well, most of them. I see a very few of them in white collars and desk jobs, but in large amount roaming around the down town with funny costumes and filthy language. I heard they have their own laws in their colony and whoever tries to raise above it, gets victimised by his fellow brothers. Thats why we see negligible numbers of them make it into colleges and universities, though they are often seen outside the campus selling drugs to and breaking limbs of students. Well, not all of them. Nothing aginst any race !
When I came here first I was surprised ( and partly amazed ) to see them exactly as I have been seeing them in English flicks. Dresses, caps, music and foot-tapping walk. Especially the way they speak. Somebody told me its close to Souther accent. Definitely its different and you will enjoy.
We Desis are in constant complex while in US. Americans admire a lot of things in us. We can work long hours. We don't have a life apart from work ( the very reason we are in our business in IT ). We are versatile in technology ( An american codes in C for 30 years and retires codoing in the same). And they hate even more things in us. We smell like our food, our hygiene is horrible and our dressing sense sucks. But they can never ignore us since we work for cheap.
We Desis sometimes find ourselves close to Kallus. We are in the same Creamy-layer. However smart we are, no matter we have a Green Card, no matter howmuch we make money, We can never be a part of the main stream, since the color of our skins have a melanin dominance.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)